Every interaction with another human being has an infinite number of possibilities. It is our job to discover each other’s strengths in order to build a better future. Failure to do so is missed opportunity.
I meet a lot of people each day. Around 250, on average, per day. They come from all over the world. Although I am aware that this is a limited sample, it does give me some insight into people as a whole. I have small interactions with around 50 of the 250 people I meet. 80% of them are friendly and engaging. 15% are indifferent. 5% are hostile.
I have to make a confession. Before I began working as a cashier at Food and Friends I thought of cashiers as an extension of the inanimate object to which they are attached. This was my perspective before. Never again.
“Turn your head and look at me! I know you can see me through the corner of your eye as you spray disinfectant on that paper towel. Let me know you acknowledge me by turning your head.”
This is what my body is saying. I have no control over it. My back straightens without my consent. I have no control over the accentuated movements of my thighs and buttocks while I move up and down. By the time I have control, I go along with it.
I’m not even attracted to him. His body is too short and stubby. He looks like a hobbit. I want a man who is at least six feet tall. A man who can wrap me up with his body. Like a comfortable blanket. But this does not matter to my body because it craves the acknowledgment. My body does not rationalize. My body does not think about the long term plans. It does not think about what our kids would look like or the success of our future.
All of these people surround me and non of them see me.